Women are very different than men. Women say that men are stoic and uncompromising, whereas men say that women are over-emotional and irrational. This has spurred many studies and books and movies, and has generally baffled mankind since the beginning of, well, mankind.
I have the answer.
Men can see the path in front of them, whereas women live in the moment. When a serious relationship ends, men see it as just another step in their life and can move on and get over the relationship much quicker. They spend much less time pondering "what could have been" and simply accept the fact that it didn't work out and it's for the best.
Women, however, can only see that moment of emotional distress. They mourn the relationship as if it were a dead friend. They don't see that there will be another man in their future. They do not remember the faults of the relationship, but they dwell on the good parts - selectively ignoring the glaring reasons the relationship ended.
This is true in day to day male-female interactions as well. When I have an argument with a male, I don't see that it will be better tomorrow. I feel that I am sad and angry RIGHT NOW, and therefore will always be sad and angry. Therefore, when I do have a fight, I want it to end as soon as possible and have the relationship go back to normal immediately. When guys get angry, they need to just be angry for a while, cool down, then everything will be okay. Girls (especially myself) need the comfort of knowing (as soon as possible) that everything is better. They don't see the big picture.
This mindset causes women to act crazy - like it's their last day on earth, or that that man is their soulmate - even if we (deep down) know that he wasn't. Men come across as cold and heartless, even though in actuality they just have the foresight to not emotionally break down when placed in an emotionally explosive situation.
I think this also causes women to give in to things they'd rather not give in to. They think it's better to let him choose the restaurant or the movie or who has to make dinner rather than risk enduring the uneasy argument stage.
I may very well be completely off-base here. Or, I'm not, but I want to avoid any sort of tense altercations.
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Monday, September 18, 2006
Fall Lineup Reviews
"The Class" - ABC Mondays 8:00
I give it one thumb up. It has potential, although it seems to force the humor sometimes.
"The Office" - NBC Thursdays 8:30
Best show ever, or at least on network television.
That's all I've watched so far, and I'm only speculating on The Office.
I probably should have watched more than one show before I wrote this...
I give it one thumb up. It has potential, although it seems to force the humor sometimes.
"The Office" - NBC Thursdays 8:30
Best show ever, or at least on network television.
That's all I've watched so far, and I'm only speculating on The Office.
I probably should have watched more than one show before I wrote this...
Free Granola Bar! (link)
Am I the only one who doesn't care whether or not he eats the box, but I just want my free granola bar?
It ain't just apples and chalkdust anymore, folks.
Since i became a NYC public school teacher:
1. I am more exhausted than I have ever been in my life.
2. I have much more respect for all public school teachers, especially my mother.
3. I have strained my vocal chords to their very limits.
4. I get up every day at 5:30.
5. I rarely get more than 5 hours of sleep a night.
6. I have used "word" to mean the affirmative.
7. I have been told on several occasions that "I be beastin'."
8. I realize that talking about standards and soft bigotry and institutional failure does nothing. At the end of the day, most of my kids still cannot do what most white kids can do by 3rd grade.
9. I have become a proponent for trade school instead of the "Unless you're going to college, this is pretty useless to you" approach.
10. I hate the system. I hate the system that puts a girl in my class who cannot speak English but is not considered ESL because her first language is not Spanish, it's French. I hate the system that thinks that the solution to bad teaching is forcing students to take huge tests, then retake the class if they fail. I hate the system that will fire me if I do not put an "aim" on the board each day but lets hundreds of kids slip through the cracks.
11. When I come home at night, I want to cry. Often I do. It's not for any particular reason or for any reason at all.
12. I cannot watch TV dramas anymore. Law and Order isn't as cool when the 16-year-old that was shot on TV could be the same kid in my class.
13. I chastise kids in public. "Why are you hanging out on this street corner? Shouldn't you be on your way home, or doing schoolwork?"
14. I get angrier at young kids who misbehave in public. If I can quiet a class of 34 rowdy 14-year-olds in an 85 degree room to learn the scientific method, you should be able to quiet one 5-year-old that came out of your own body.
15. I hate copiers, and printers, and most technology.
16. My lunch is a diet coke. Maybe also a breakfast bar, but usually just the diet coke.
17. I hate the fact that my kids have to get to class 30 minutes earlier than kids at other schools, just to get through security.
18. I have very little respect for the program I'm in. It's like we spent 9 weeks learning about the physics of the backstroke, then were dumped into the ocean and told to swim 2 miles to shore.
Will I make it through the end of my program (2-3 years)? Maybe.
Will I make it to the end of this year? Maybe.
Will I make it to the end of this week? Maybe.
All I know is that I didn't quit today, and I'm planning on going in tomorrow.
Now I'm going to go cry for no reason. No reason at all.
1. I am more exhausted than I have ever been in my life.
2. I have much more respect for all public school teachers, especially my mother.
3. I have strained my vocal chords to their very limits.
4. I get up every day at 5:30.
5. I rarely get more than 5 hours of sleep a night.
6. I have used "word" to mean the affirmative.
7. I have been told on several occasions that "I be beastin'."
8. I realize that talking about standards and soft bigotry and institutional failure does nothing. At the end of the day, most of my kids still cannot do what most white kids can do by 3rd grade.
9. I have become a proponent for trade school instead of the "Unless you're going to college, this is pretty useless to you" approach.
10. I hate the system. I hate the system that puts a girl in my class who cannot speak English but is not considered ESL because her first language is not Spanish, it's French. I hate the system that thinks that the solution to bad teaching is forcing students to take huge tests, then retake the class if they fail. I hate the system that will fire me if I do not put an "aim" on the board each day but lets hundreds of kids slip through the cracks.
11. When I come home at night, I want to cry. Often I do. It's not for any particular reason or for any reason at all.
12. I cannot watch TV dramas anymore. Law and Order isn't as cool when the 16-year-old that was shot on TV could be the same kid in my class.
13. I chastise kids in public. "Why are you hanging out on this street corner? Shouldn't you be on your way home, or doing schoolwork?"
14. I get angrier at young kids who misbehave in public. If I can quiet a class of 34 rowdy 14-year-olds in an 85 degree room to learn the scientific method, you should be able to quiet one 5-year-old that came out of your own body.
15. I hate copiers, and printers, and most technology.
16. My lunch is a diet coke. Maybe also a breakfast bar, but usually just the diet coke.
17. I hate the fact that my kids have to get to class 30 minutes earlier than kids at other schools, just to get through security.
18. I have very little respect for the program I'm in. It's like we spent 9 weeks learning about the physics of the backstroke, then were dumped into the ocean and told to swim 2 miles to shore.
Will I make it through the end of my program (2-3 years)? Maybe.
Will I make it to the end of this year? Maybe.
Will I make it to the end of this week? Maybe.
All I know is that I didn't quit today, and I'm planning on going in tomorrow.
Now I'm going to go cry for no reason. No reason at all.
Sunday, September 17, 2006
Saturday, September 16, 2006
Movies Everyone Should See
The Exorcist
Friday the 13th
Breakfast at Tiffany's
Casablanca
The Matchmaker
Under the Tuscan Sun
So I Married an Axe Murderer
The Muppet Christmas Carol
When Harry Met Sally
Ghostbusters
Rosemary's Baby
Final Destination 1 (and maybe 2)
Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
The Birds
The Laramie Project
Jaws
Philadelphia
Psycho
Real Women Have Curves
Tommy Boy
Black Sheep
E.T.
Love Actually
Say Anything
My Girl
My Girl 2
Silence of the Lambs
Hedwig and the Angry Inch
Sixteen Candles
Thank You for Smoking
Now and Then
Poltergeist
The Way We Were
And the Band Played On
The Breakfast Club
Calendar Girls
Dead Poet's Society
Father of the Bride
Father of the Bride II
Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Add yours in comments...
Friday the 13th
Breakfast at Tiffany's
Casablanca
The Matchmaker
Under the Tuscan Sun
So I Married an Axe Murderer
The Muppet Christmas Carol
When Harry Met Sally
Ghostbusters
Rosemary's Baby
Final Destination 1 (and maybe 2)
Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
The Birds
The Laramie Project
Jaws
Philadelphia
Psycho
Real Women Have Curves
Tommy Boy
Black Sheep
E.T.
Love Actually
Say Anything
My Girl
My Girl 2
Silence of the Lambs
Hedwig and the Angry Inch
Sixteen Candles
Thank You for Smoking
Now and Then
Poltergeist
The Way We Were
And the Band Played On
The Breakfast Club
Calendar Girls
Dead Poet's Society
Father of the Bride
Father of the Bride II
Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Add yours in comments...
Monday, September 04, 2006
Call me Miss Orayduh
Tomorrow I start teaching. I'm not going to lie, I'm a little freaked out. I'll have 5 classes with about 200 kids total. Yikes.
Well, wish me luck.
Well, wish me luck.
Saturday, September 02, 2006
Ode to Coffee
Coffee
Black or with cream and equal,
Italian, from Starbucks, brewed on extra-strong,
I love you.
Coffee.
Coffee
You are made in my beautiful red coffee-maker,
Black and hot, you come out,
Giving me caffeine.
Coffee.
Coffee
You have made me short and given me coffee breath,
But I don't care.
Coffee.
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